Early Childhood Education
It is sometimes easy to overlook misbehaviors, but here is why they shouldn’t be ignored.
Interrupting when you’re talking:
Your child may be excited and want to tell you something while you’re talking to your friend or while you are on the phone. Allowing them to control the conversation does not teach them how to be considerate of others, or how to occupy themselves when you’re busy. Letting them tug on your arm, or jump and down to get your attention can result in a child who thinks they are entitled to other people’s attention, and they will not learn how to deal with frustration.
It’s easy to redirect a child. Before you make that phone call, or meet with your friend, tell the childthey need to not interrupt you when you’re talking. Bring a book, or toy to occupy themselves with while you have a conversation. Repeat as necessary.
You shouldn’t disregard subtle acts of aggression like pushing a friend or pinching a sibling. When you don’t intervene this kind of aggression can become the “norm” by the time your child is mainstreamed.Y ou are also sending the message that hurting others is acceptable. It’s not. Confront your child. Let them know that it isn’t right to harm another, and ask them how they would feel if it happened to them.
Teach empathy. Often children who argue are bright and verbal. Teach them how to compromise, teach them how to be diplomatic and allow them to learn that giving in graciously at times is a great way to show their friends that they care.
Telling your child to do something 5 or 6 times, like picking up their toys or coming to the table for dinner, tells them it’s ok to ignore you and that they run the show. Repeating yourself over and over again, trains your child to wait until the next reminder before they must do something. Having selective hearing and tuning you out is a power play and if you continue to allow it to happen, your child will become controlling.
The next time your child ignores you, walk up to them, have them look at you and tell them what they need to do. Have them respond to you when you are talking to them face to face. Tap them on the shoulder, say their name, turn off the TV to get their attention. If this doesn’t get them to do what you need them to do, impose a consequence.
Reading is fundamental for cognitive and emotional development of children. At trinitychild.org we will continue to list books that are requisite for your child’s development, imagination, and sense of wonder. This month’s list includes recent Newbery Medal Winners and Caldecott Wilder Award winners.
Our Reading Selections:
The Girl Who Drank the Moon – by Kelly Barnhill
Opps, Pounce, Quick, Run! An Alphabet Caper – by Mike Twohy
Go Otto Go! – by David Milgrim
Nana in The City – by Lauren Castillo
The Adventures of Beekle: The Unimaginary Friend – by Dan Santan
Flora and The Flamingo – by Molly Idle
Goodnight Owl – by Greg Pizzoli
The Infamous Ratsos – by Kara LaReau and Last Stop on Market Street – by Matt de la Pena